How do I cope?
Updated: Sep 10
Over the last 6.5 years life has truly been a lot of heartache, turmoil, road blocks and I have literally put blood, sweat and tears into every aspect of my life. I have always been a firm believer that I will only ever be given what I can handle, and although it absolutely sucks, it will get better, I will find a way to problem solve my way out of it, and I will survive it. That is something my parents instilled in me when I was young (Thanks Lancey and Jan).
I will obviously talk about it, not just take it in, but I have learnt to be able to do that in a calm manner and take it as it comes. Over the last couple of weeks, I had a few comments made to me about how calm or accepting I am of the moment or situation I am in. That the other person would react or does react in a very different way. I reflected on this a little deeper and put together the below:
Finding comfort in surrendering and accepting the present moment, even when you cannot influence it, can be a valuable mindset to cultivate. It allows you to let go of unnecessary resistance and find peace within yourself. Here are a few perspectives and practices that may help you in embracing this approach:
Mindfulness: Practice being fully present in the moment, observing your thoughts and emotions without judgment. Mindfulness helps cultivate acceptance and non-resistance by teaching you to acknowledge and let go of the desire to control things beyond your influence.
Trust in the process: (biggest one for me, even if it sucks) Understand that life unfolds in its own way, and not everything is under your control. Embrace the belief that there is a greater plan or order at work, and trust that things will work out for the best, even if they don't align with your immediate desires.
Focus on what you can control: While you may not have control over certain external factors, you can still influence your own reactions, mindset, and actions. Direct your energy towards the aspects of life that you can actively shape, such as your attitude, choices, and responses.
Letting go of expectations: Often, our discomfort arises from the gap between our expectations and reality. Practice letting go of rigid expectations and instead adopt a mindset of curiosity and openness. Embrace the idea that the present moment is as it should be, and release attachment to specific outcomes.
Cultivate gratitude: Focus on appreciating the positive aspects of each moment, even if it doesn't align with your desired outcome. Gratitude can shift your perspective and help you find contentment and peace, regardless of the circumstances.
Seek personal growth: Use moments of surrender and acceptance as opportunities for personal growth and self-reflection. Explore how you can learn from the situation, develop resilience, and discover new strengths within yourself.
Remember, finding comfort in surrender and acceptance is a journey that takes practice and patience. Be kind to yourself during this process, and allow yourself the space to grow and evolve.
I do believe that this flows into how and why we eat in many different ways. Trying to trust the process, it may be a different way of eating, or different thought process. It may be uncomfortable, but change will occur, it is learning patience. We will only be given what we can handle. Just trust.